I WANT to say “Dad, look. I found a strong Black man like you. I looked at the example you set for me and it informed my choice.”
—Dad should be very proud.

Esepcially given the (false)narrative that the media is trying to promote, its quite pleasant to hear a Black Woman articulate the faults with Black culture, with Black Relations and even Black Men and affirmatively decide that is the only path where she could be fulfilled. “Refreshing” doesn’t even begin to do the emotion (uh huh..lol) justice.

I don’t want to effuse too much bc it might mistakenly be me being disingenuous, but you’ve echoed a a lot of the sentiments I feel on why its so important to me, when I finally do have a family, to have atleast one daughter.

G-D bless.

And ten years of marriage later, I am *so* glad I stuck by my number 1 requirement because there is something very, very special about what we’ve done… to share it together… to be out and about and see how other people must acknowledge that we are present, together, united… it is love, but it is also political.

Glad you know what you want.

I got a pretty nasty comment from an “anonymous” poster who basically said it’s our fault we’re habitually single, and that we’re the ones perpetuating the media frenzy about our love lives, and how we “smell like chemicals” because we bleach our skin, relax our hair, etc… trying to “look white” and how we DID need to date White men, because they’re the *only* ones who would accept us w/out the painful beauty regimens and body modifications.

Umm… yeah.

I love this post.

~NUFF SAID!!!!

I hate the fact that people assume that all interracial dating is a conscious choice. That one wakes up and says, “today I’m gonna find me a white man.” It wasn’t for me- I did not go looking to be rescued from a sea of black failure. In fact, I was adamant that I would NEVER date outside of my race seriously. I dated good black men and horrible white men and everything in between- but I always pictured myself married to a black man.

However, it turned out that I found love with my best friend who happened to be white. And like you said, it was not because I was told to do so.

Great article.

I have news for those who insist on that meme, wm aren’t lining in droves to date/marry bw. And most of us aren’t interested in dating wm. That promotion of such reeks of white supremacy and I’m not going to stand by and hear such crap from the mainstream media that never celebrate Black women, ever.

La Reyna

I was not perplexed or troubled by your answer. I thought I was asking a different question from your answer.when this kind of misunderstanding happens,blogs usually aren’t the place to further discussion.

God bless! Thank you for your time.