I’m not a Pussycat Dolls fan by any means, but “Don’t Cha” is my CUT in the club. After hearing it for the third time in one evening in my fave new gay boy spot, I took a good listen to the lyrics. I’d never really thought about them before, nor had I noticed the [...]
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It’s a lot easier for me to identify the issues that I have with Black men than it is to recognize the ways in which I and other sisters contribute to them. There are some obvious things that many of us do, and those of us who fail to have successful relationships certainly have our [...]
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American Woman
Part 2 of the YouTube rambling. I know I seem drunk, but I was actually falling asleep on the inside. My voice is not that annoying in real life, I swear. What up, what up? I hope all is well kinfolk. I had a great weekend in DC, but I am truly glad to be [...]
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It’s So Cold In NYC
What it do, beautiful people? Sorry to leave you in silence yesterday, I had a lot going on. One of the most phenomenal days I’ve had a quite a while, I must admit! As we speak, I’m packing to get up and get out of New York for a few days. As much as I [...]
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Where Do We Start
I can’t get my life together today, people! Last night I died and went to hag heaven: a gay strip club. Oh, mother has lived, mother has LIVED, children! First of all, I had my boobs OUT and rocked my long and silky hair, so I was getting plenty of love from the kids. Sir [...]
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Chasing “The Cool”
I am so grateful to be up for TWO 2008 Black Weblog Awards: Best Personal Blog and Best Writing In A Blog! I appreciate your votes so very much! Please return one mo’ gin to www.blackweblogawards.com to vote for The Beautiful Struggler! I have heard young “good” Black men complain on many occasions about the [...]
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To Have and To Hold Down- Pt. 1
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Death of the Cool
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You, Me And She
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Dear Mama
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Happy Black Girl Day: March 2011 Edition
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National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day
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Sick Of Rap, Part 314
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Getting Down On Five For Friday
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Ready To Lie
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Happy Black Girl Day: April 2011 Edition
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Eternal Gloom Of The Cluttered Mind
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