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Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus, You Should Be Here

Merci Beaucoup!

2 Comments 01 September 2010

(If you missed the earlier post today, check it out here! Great information for those of you who work with girls ages 10-17!-ST) Hip-Hop hooray, I won a Black Weblog Awardfor Best Microblog (my Twitter page)! Thank you so much to those who voted. What makes this a whole lot cooler than when I won in [...]

You Should Be Here

Get With This: 365 Girl

2 Comments 01 September 2010

(Today’s regularly scheduled post will appear a little later on.-ST) Hey! For those of you who work with or have a personal relationship with young women between the ages of 10-17, consider checking out Tracey Hawkins-Sydnor’s book 365 Girl: “365 Girl is an immediate call to action on raising the self esteem of young ladies. [...]

Dirty Pop Culture, Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Race Matters

Live From The Color Complex, Part 1

51 Comments 30 August 2010

Dear readers, what have been YOUR experiences with color? When were you first made aware of the concept? Have you been hurt or challenged by matters of skin tone and if so, how? Unpack your bags and let's rap

Dirty Pop Culture, Feminist Fight, Fine Arts, Reviews

Get With This: My Mic Sounds Nice

6 Comments 26 August 2010

We've been asking to see work like My Mic Sounds Nice for years and we have to make sure that we support it if we want to see more

Politics/Politricks, Race Matters

Just Another Case of That Old DEA

15 Comments 25 August 2010

When we are looking at a place with as a large Black population as Atlanta and the number of persons being investigated who will be Black and male...you are telling me you don't employ nine folks who speak the language of the 'trap?

Dirty Pop Culture, Race Matters

The Power of No Forgiveness

13 Comments 24 August 2010

The path to this fabled "Post-Racial America" will not be paved with empty apologies and forgiveness that comes with no requirements.

Feminist Fight, Politics/Politricks, You Shoulda Been There

Support Kevin Powell for Congress

7 Comments 29 July 2010

I would like to urge everyone-particularly my fellow residents of Brooklyn's 10th Congressional District-to check out Kevin's website and consider donating or getting involved with the campaign.

Mars/Venus

“And The Brother Said” Vol. 1 f/Phonte Coleman

53 Comments 02 June 2010

As I promised last week, I will occasionally be giving the floor to up to some of my favorite brothers to let them give some male perspectives on dating, romance and other topics of the day. The first edition of “And the Brother Said” features the homey Phonte. Most of you know him as a [...]

Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus

Love and Marriage

8 Comments 22 June 2010

Taking a break from the Feminism series for a spell. It’s much needed, I’d say. If you missed part one and part two, please take a second to check them out. Part three was linked at The Fresh Xpress and my Clutch feature for this week is “Why Feminism?”, a brief rundown of why I [...]

Dirty Pop Culture, Pure Comedy, Race Matters, Reviews

A “Pause” For The Cause

47 Comments 24 June 2010

Aaron McGruder takes on both Tyler Perry and the "pause"/"no homo" phenomenon in one fell swoop. Brilliant. Hilarious. And, most of all, courageous.

Dirty Pop Culture, Fine Arts, Life and Times of Sister Toldja

On Michael, With Love

17 Comments 25 June 2010

There is so much interesting cultural commentary that can be culled from Michael's life, his death and his legacy. However, I'm not the one who's gonna make those observations. At least not right now. My views on Michael are very much emotional. I'm too focused on my attachment to him as one of my first crushes and one of my favoritest people I ever did see to have an intellectual interest in him yet. I just wanna love him.

Feminist Fight

Redemption Song?

45 Comments 28 June 2010

Folks all across Negronia and beyond tuned into last night’s BET Awards in anticipation of the network’s second attempt at a Michael Jackson tribute. I didn’t watch live because, well, I ain’t got cable. I am convinced that having access to so much television would make me lazy. And also, I’m poor. In anticipation of [...]

Feminist Fight, Mars/Venus, Race Matters

To Have and To Hold Down- Pt. 1

35 Comments 30 June 2010

We want to love our brothers, we think we love our brothers...but sometimes, we just don't know how to do it.

Feminist Fight, Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus, Race Matters

To Have and To Hold Down- Pt. 2

31 Comments 01 July 2010

This is why there is a site in the first place. This is why I write.

Let’s Talk About Sex, Mars/Venus

Let’s Wait A While

39 Comments 06 July 2010

You know what's sexy? Sex. What's not? Creepy text messages.

Fine Arts, Reviews

Get With This: B*tch Is The New Black

22 Comments 08 July 2010

It took me a long time to review of B*tch Is The New Black because I couldnt bring myself finish the book...

Fine Arts, Race Matters, You Should Be Here

Elsewhere Today.

0 Comments 09 July 2010

Sorry that there was no new post here today, but I have three articles elsewhere on the web today: How Much Was Oscar Grant’s Life Worth? (via Essence Online) Chicago’s Response to Overturned Gun Ban (also, via Essence Online) You Know I Had Soul (via Soul Train) If you are heading to the Brooklyn Hip-Hop [...]

Feminist Fight, Race Matters

B*tch, Please?

17 Comments 12 July 2010

The biggest problem with b*tch is that there is no universally accepted definition.

Life and Times of Sister Toldja

Growing Pains

16 Comments 20 July 2010

I'm either going to keep rolling with the age I turned in 2008 for another year or take on my 2009 one. But this 2010 one? Oh no, hell no.

Life and Times of Sister Toldja

Conversations With Mother Toldja

17 Comments 23 July 2010

Mom: You just don't understand. I was fabulous.

Life and Times of Sister Toldja

A Modest Proposal

19 Comments 27 July 2010

Someone hit me up not too long ago and asked "Are you blogging full time?" Unfortunately, this isn't the case.

Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus

The Second Worst I Ever Had

24 Comments 28 July 2010

As we left off yesterday, I found myself chatting up a dude in the mall who wasn’t really my type of hype. To recap: neck tattoo, tight Armani Exchange threads, Drake ringtone= the three strikes that SHOULD have put him out. But no, silly little me keeps on going. Now, this fella is a chef [...]

Dirty Pop Culture, Let’s Talk About Sex, Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Politics/Politricks, Pure Comedy

Friday Foolery

5 Comments 30 July 2010

Some people should make a comeback, but others need to stay gone so that I might preserve the image I had of them in my heart.

Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus

Dating Game: He Said, I Listened

25 Comments 03 August 2010

Not long ago, I met a fella that I found to be dope. I wont give you details because 1) God forbid he Googled me and found the site (if so, can you please stop reading right now? Please? and 2)there are perhaps three men who could be reading this and thinking “Is this about [...]

Feminist Fight

After The Dance

15 Comments 02 August 2010

There seems to be a widespread societal belief that women who work in these establishments are all ‘hoes with daddy issues’.

Fine Arts, You Should Be Here

Get With This: FREE CANDY

3 Comments 04 August 2010

Not long before I moved to Brooklyn, I got word of a fellow Chicago native and Howard alum who was attempting to open up a performance space in Fort Greene. Todd Triplett fought a long, tough battle, but the venue was seized by the city through Eminent Domain...

Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus

Return Of The Mack

97 Comments 09 August 2010

Can I tell you that I was the recipient of some grade-A mack game this weekend? And I couldn't be any happier!

Preserve The Pretty

Guest Post: Why You Should Encourage Little Girls To Play Sports

17 Comments 10 August 2010

"I set out to find a black female workout partner who is around my age. I figured I’d start some activities and naturally meet some black girls along the way. Needless to say, that hasn’t happened..."

Life and Times of Sister Toldja

Happy Black Girl Day 8/10: My Sister’s Kept One

17 Comments 11 August 2010

Happy Black Girl Day! This month, I want to salute someone very special to me: my eldest sister, Sister OGSB (yes, I am rude enough to use an inside joke nickname on the internet and not define it…what? She’s my sister, I’m not gonna tell all our secrets!) Yesterday was her birthday and it seems [...]

Dirty Pop Culture, Pure Comedy, Race Matters

Five For Friday: Afro-Twitter Revolution

11 Comments 13 August 2010

We just would like to continue living, loving and laughing without being othered by random strangers...but can we have an Afro-Twitter family reunion?

Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Mars/Venus

Stop Wasting My Free Text Messages

16 Comments 16 August 2010

Recently, I have found myself constantly in and out of text message conversations with a young man who I met recently...but he hasn't made a move to actually plan anything or suggest a date or even made a vague suggestion about hanging out. But he seems to want to chat with me all the time.

Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Love For Sale

The Twitter/Blogging Comment Problem

51 Comments 17 August 2010

I take what I do and my brand (yes, the dreaded B-word) seriously. I hope that you respect that. If it isn't for you, no love lost...

Dirty Pop Culture, Life and Times of Sister Toldja, Politics/Politricks, Race Matters

On Lauryn, Proposition 8 and That Mosque Situation

4 Comments 18 August 2010

Fam-a-lam! No entirely new content here today, but if I may, I want to call your attention to something I am *really* excited about. I had the opportunity to screen BET’s first ever music documentary “My Mic Sounds Nice: A Truth About Women In Hip-Hop” last week and it literally brought me to tears. I [...]

Dirty Pop Culture

Take It This Far

17 Comments 23 August 2010

...even with the fact that the mainstream embrace of pieces and shades of the culutre is almost as old as I am...I don't want to see little suburban 'tweens on TV rapping, dressed like fake trap boys circa 1999.

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